To best please your partner, using your hands to stimulate or to play can lead to new sensations and new ways to please your partner. Of course, you may not know every trick in the book (just yet) but we’re here to give you some ideas and tips to help you become a master, or mistress, of dexterity.
Let Yourself Go!
Being in the right frame of mind can be half the battle when it comes to arousal. Exercise, meditation or even a massage can clear your mind, among a number of techniques, and get you all the more ready for passionate, engaging sex.
Remember, taking off your clothes is as much an act of faith as it is arousal, but so is letting yourself be caressed, touch and kissed. Start slow. Rushing can be a mood killer. Instead, move from shoulders to arms, perhaps back to the neck and then further down with sensual caresses. Make sure you don’t just jump in; rather, stay attentive to all parts of your partner’s body. Whether hugging, stroking or even tickling, your arms and hands can be both an erogenous zone and the tool to turn things on.
On him: You might have heard of the frenulum, which is the more scientific term for the area underneath the crown of the penis (underneath the ridge on the bottom side). This has a bundle of potential (and nerves) that really istheswitch. Running a finger along it towards the tip will stimulate these nerves, and bring out the most excitement you might see.
On her: The clitoris is the go-to place, but unlike the frenulum, you really need to work your way up to it. With your fingers you can explore during foreplay, finding the spots that make her eyes widen (or might at this moment be a little too sensitive to touch). From there, take it slow, but increase the pressure, and increase the speed in a rhythm. Remember: girls are very different when it comes to what they prefer, so keep talking to her. Not to ply her with questions, but just to keep the voices alive and ensuring that you’re hitting all the right notes.
Whether it be a fumble, or a tumble, or just a missed grasp, those awkward momentsthat might throw you off can happen. But there’s no reason to stop. The best way to react to an honest mistake is laughter. Sex can be a funny, messy activity where you’re exposing yourself, so be aware of what could or has happened, and just let it roll off, while getting right back on.