New year, new sex life

Make this the year of better sex with the right New Year’s resolutions

January is the time to look back over the last year and assess what you did right, and what you’d like to improve for the year ahead, and your sex life is no different.

So, forget joining a gym and instead make some positive and empowering resolutions to make the coming year result in your best sex ever.

The year in review.

There are very few people who can look back over the previous year and be completely happy with every single thing they’ve achieved – and sex lives are no different.

Don’t be too harsh on yourself if you haven’t done it as often as you wanted or tried out the new things you had in mind to please your partner.

New Year’s resolutions are all about addressing what you want to change and making it happen.

The key to making resolutions that you actually stick to is to make them achievable and fun.

Putting too much pressure on yourself rarely works, so think of some simple but effective things you can do to make small but significant changes that add up to better sex.

Here are our suggestions…

Read all about it.

Try reading erotica (great for getting you in the mood and giving you a few ideas), or read it aloud to your partner (but be warned, you may not make it to the end of the page before things get heated).

You could even try writing your own and giving it to each other to read – it’s a great way to talk about fantasies if you find saying things face-to-face difficult.

Spend some time being nice.

Think about the scene you’re setting before sex – if you’ve been arguing over money or are exhausted from work, you’re probably not going to be in the best frame of mind to please your partner.

So, spend some time being kind to each other, and show plenty of affection, because a better relationship means better sex.

Shake up your sex routine.

Been meaning to try it in the shower? There’s no time like the present to please your partner!

If you’ve always been a fumble-in-the-sack-before-bed kind of couple, now is the time to shake things up a bit.

Try setting an alarm for some early-morning fun, or put your to-do list aside and indulge in a bit of afternoon delight one weekend.

Remember to flirt.

When you’ve been with your partner for a while you can forget the simple things, such as flirting. If you get that right, the rest can follow more naturally.

So spend a little time wooing your partner by sending a flirty text, whispering a few saucy suggestions in their ear or taking time to talk (and listen) and better sex will follow.

Explore a new bit of each other’s body.

All too often sex becomes a routine that you work your way through.

Forget autopilot and slow things right down and please your partner by searching out their erogenous zones and paying them some attention (hint: try behind the ears, behind the knee and the inside of the arm).

Try a new position.

We all have our favourites, but these can become the same old dependable positions time and again.

If body confidence or inexperience are making you think twice, talk to your partner, and work up to different positions gradually, so your confidence builds.

With a few simple changes you can please your partner – and yourself – and make this the best year yet for your sex life.

So, go ahead and pick a few simple and achievable resolutions, and have fun – and better sex – by sticking to them!