Masturbation. There, we said it. While it’s still something of a taboo subject, most of us do it – according to one American study, 94% of men admit to masturbating, as do 85% of women. But what you may not know is how beneficial it can be for your body and relationship.
1. How you can get to know your body (and why it’s good for you!)
Learning what you like – and how you like it – is an important part of building your sexual confidence and awareness. It allows you to find out what turns you on, and the confidence you build helps you have good sex.
Where do you start? We’re all different, so the best advice is to try a variety of things, and when you find something you like, keep practicing until you’ve honed your skills to perfection. Whether you’re using your hand or a toy (or both!), give yourself time to experiment. Lube and pleasure gel can be great additions to solo sex as they allow you to experience different sensations and ramp up the excitement.
2. The benefits for sex
Masturbation can help men to combat premature ejaculation. By training yourself to last longer solo, you'll last longer with a partner, too. Try to push yourself slightly more each time – if you last one minute, try to raise this by 10 seconds next time and see how far you get. Premature ejaculation is more likely if there’s a longer gap between orgasms, so think of it as a training schedule to push yourself to the limits!
In women, masturbation increases the amount of lubrication in the area. Which all adds up to making sex feel better, possibly meaning you’ll want more of it.
3. The benefits of doing it together
If you and your partner masturbate together, it can give fantastic insight into what really good sex looks like for both of you. Watch each other as you do your thing (the intense eye contact alone can drive you wild) and you’ll soon learn. It’s often easier to show your partner than to explain (it’s a great way to introduce sex toys, lube and pleasure gel into the bedroom), and once they see you lose yourself, they may be anxious to recreate it for you. Watching each other can give you a deeper connection and a feeling of greater intimacy, and that could translate to hotter sex.