10 New Things To Try In Bed To Spice Up Your Relationship
Have you been left… unsatisfied after the fact? Are you expecting the… expected each and every time? Has the ticking clock’s glances met your eyes more than your partner’s? If that’s the case, it’s time for a reset. While predictability is a part of life, it doesn’t have to be a part of your sex life. Nothing feels better than trying new things.
If you want to know some secrets on how to spice up your relationship or casual sex situation, we’ve got you covered in more ways than one. And if you’re looking to impress someone new in your life (in or outside the bedroom), these tips work just the same. Let’s inject some extra passion into your sexual encounters and create a new bang in your life.
1. Sexy Things To Try In Bed (Or Wherever)
Apart from go-to sex positions and your run-of-the-mill foreplay, it’s important to know how to spice up your relationship or sexual situation by keeping a few tricks in mind. Let’s countdown 10 of our favourite players that can help you go from having good sex to great sex with some simple adjustments that can be satisfying for all involved.
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2. Location Changes
One of the easiest changes you can make to increase excitement during sex is to do it spontaneously in a new location around the house (or at your sexual partner’s pad). Even tried and true positions like missionary suddenly feel a lot more adventurous if you’re doing it on the kitchen table or the bathroom floor layered in towels, for example.
And you don’t have to stop there. Other pieces of furniture can help adjust your bodies into different sex positions, allowing you to hit new hot spots that you might otherwise miss on a mattress. Don’t discount a sturdy coffee table or small bookcase – you never know what they have in store until you try it out.
3. Incorporating Pillows
If you’d rather stick to things to spice up the bedroom, then try reaching over for one of your comfiest pillows to create some new angles. Not only will you have the comfiest seat in the house, but the sexiest too.
Place a pillow or two under your partner’s hips or buttocks during missionary sex to deepen penetration. You can also place a pillow underneath their chest during doggy style to give them more stability and thrusting leverage. Or, if they’re on the top, put one under your hips for more of a cushion. A pillow may not help with lasting longer in bed, but it’ll help increase the pleasure all around.
4. Using Props
Sexual props come in many forms, and there are lots of items around your house that can add excitement to foreplay and sexual intercourse. Plug in a fan and aim it at your bodies during sex. The cold air hitting your hot skin will send shivering sensations up and down.
If you’re interested in shower sex, why not grab that loofa, and rub down your partner’s entire body with soap before and/or after you start getting into it? By the end of your rinse, your libido can be warmed up in multiple ways.
Ice cubes also add an extra exciting spark. Take out a few from your ice tray in the freezer and place some on your partner’s hot body – then watch as they melt down with every lick you give them. You can also try keeping one in your mouth while giving head for sensational pleasure.
5. Trying New Thrusting Patterns
Sometimes you don’t even need a new sex position to know how to spice up your relationship – just a new thrust is all it can take. A simple change of pace and depth can cause new sensations and earth-shattering orgasms. Try three long thrusts and three shallow ones, or ten teasing ones then five deep ones. Experiment with different rhythms to see which works for you and your partner(s).
6. Looking In The Mirror
Using a mirror during sex is a great way to heat things up in the bedroom. No matter what sex position you’re trying, being able to look each other (and yourself) in the eye while you get it on can be highly stimulating. And, of course, you can tailor the position to give yourselves the most desirable view.
First, try standing in front of the mirror and undress each other slowly. This is also a great time to incorporate some oral sex, giving the receiving partner a unique view of the action that almost feels like watching an erotic video.
Looking at yourself naked can sometimes be a little daunting, but it can do wonders for your self-confidence. Even if you’re not planning on having sex, look in the mirror and tell yourself all the things that you like about yourself, and what your partner(s) likes too.
7. Getting Wet With Lubes
Personal lubricants and massage gels are another fool-proof way to add extra excitement to the bedroom. There is no greater satisfaction during sex than when it is comfortable and genuinely enjoyable for both parties — and that all starts with proper lubrication. Even if you or your partner aren’t suffering from any kind of dryness, lube can help you explore new sensations and get into the action a lot more effortlessly.
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8. Blindfolding Each Other
Being unable to see what’s coming next can add a sexy thrill for the blindfolded partner. Take turns so you can all experience the different sensations that come from complete darkness. You can use a real blindfold or even clothing (like a necktie) that you have lying around to blindfold each other.
If you’re blindfolded at the same time, it can create some serious excitement as you lightly touch each others’ bodies and find your way around the bedroom. However, we suggest getting comfortably situated on the mattress before going blind (we wouldn’t want you to knock into anything valuable).
9. Playing With a Cock Ring
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10. Using Mutual Climax Condoms
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11. Exploring The Body With A Vibrator
Using a vibrator can help bring intense pleasure to all partners, especially in positions like missionary where your hands are free to add extra stimulation. Try introducing a small bullet vibrator such as the Durex Intense Bullet* to take the pleasure to a whole new level. It works to provide powerful, all-over body vibrations and it’s waterproof (hello, shower sex).
12. Try This At Home
Now, all these tips on how to spice up your relationship or sex life are definitely things we’d want you to try at home, guilt-free. While there’s nothing wrong with performing the same sex positions time and time again, it’s fun to heat things up by adding in new sex toys, lubes, or even pillows to help intensify your experiences. Go ahead and execute these ideas with the utmost pleasure, we dare you!
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